A Sampling Of Letters From Christian Women That Are
Struggling With Their Husbands' Low Sex Desire

“The last time we had sex was 18 months ago…”

“As I look back, the only time we ever had sex was when I initiated it.

The last time we had sex was 18 months ago!

We were on an all inclusive romantic Island and he showed no interest in sex. Although we had a wonderful time, otherwise, I thought we should be making love.

I was so upset that I broke down and cried. I told him, “We are on a beautiful Island, perfect for honeymoons and anniversaries and we are acting like ‘just old friends.’

I want you to know that my husband is a very compassionate loving Christian man. He is loved by everyone that meets him. He doesn’t have a selfish bone in his body; so, I can not figure out why it seems that he is selfish when it comes to making love to me…”

 

“I really needed the closeness that only sex can give me…”

“I was just married four months ago and I am completely in love with my husband, and I know he completely loves me, as well.

I'm 25 and he is 32. We waited to have sex until our wedding night.

We talk. We completely trust each other. We have our relationship with God in common and that blesses our life. But, I feel so bad because he is never ‘in the mood.’

How long can I stand this?

I really don't want to let this issue grow bigger until it becomes a wall between us.

Our sex-life when we had it was very enjoyable, but it is just very infrequent.

I really needed the closeness that only sex can give me and you don't get that from someone who is sleeping…”

 

“It makes me feel emotionally and physically empty…”

“I found your website while I was trying to find Christian based information regarding sexless marriages.

My husband and I will be married 3 years next week, and this has been an ongoing issue in our relationship from the beginning.

This doesn't bother me until I start going through one of my "down periods"; when his lack of desire for me has gone on for a month or two. It makes me feel emotionally and physically empty.

When it's been too long for me, I begin dreaming about having sex with other people. I always wake up in a bad mood after this, because it's disturbing to me; I know it is wrong.

I have been patiently waiting (for so long!) for him to finally initiate.

One of the things my husband says to me is, ‘If everything else in our marriage is going so well, why can't you give me a break in this one area.’

No matter how many different ways I try to describe how empty this makes me feel, he just doesn’t seem to ‘get it’…”

 

“My heart is breaking from the pain of not having an intimate relationship…”

“I was optimistic that when he retired we would be able to focus on our marriage and start over, sexually.

I thought that he would be so excited about us being together all the time that he wouldn't be able to keep his hands off me; wrong!

He retired 3 years ago. There has been no improvement in his sex.

This is so hurtful to me..... i don't want to have to beg for someone to love or pay attention to me. I have cried myself to sleep countless times. We sleep in separate bedrooms most of the time now.

My heart is breaking from the pain of not having an intimate relationship. I wonder why God has chosen me for this kind of relationship. I still feel that I'm capable of great passion.

It's just not enough being married to a great guy; it's still too painful to for me to have a relationship without sex…”